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Originally Posted by njqt466  When you break up with a person, how do you do it? - Do you have a standard technique?
- Does the technique vary depending on certain variables, such as duration of relationship, cheating (by either of you), or something else.
- Do you plan the break up or do you just blurt it out over the dinner one night at home?
1. no 2. yes 3. plan for me it depends among other things on whether it was a sexual relationship or an emotional relationship or both one time i had to break up with a guy by phone because evey time i tried to do it in person he wud persuade me to give him another chance .... i once had a strictly non-sexual friendship with a girl which morphed into an emotional relationship from hell with a really fucked-up poor little insane bitch ... i started off being too nice and helpful and considerate and then she got hooked and dependent and demanding and controlling and judgemntal and interfering ... i had to call it off many times in person by phone and by email and she still woulddnt get the message ... i kept not responding or sending shorter messages but that made her send longer ones until finally i sent a one word message 'stop' and then she did stop emailing me but she still stalked me ... she would not let go or close even though i never promised her anything (actually i've had this problem with a couple of girls ... i dont know why ... because i'm always upfront about being gay) |
Limmerance. I think though that nice people often are victims of this because they do normally what many people only do in the course of a relationship. For someone who is hungry to see thes signs any gesture of kindness can be interpreted as love. I am so glad you brought this up about being up front about being gay. I have a major problem with men in a state of discovery who use women as their family therapy session. OR as their unknowing beard. or cover girl. If I had known I was a cover girl I would have adjusted my feelings accordingly. I think often people with a lot to lose are so afraid of sharing this information even with the person they are Hanging out with, "dating" etc that the other person has no clue what is up. A gay man is many women's idea of a perfect man. Often he is sensitive , well educated, intelligent. worldly, culturally aware, and many times dapper if not down right drop dead gorgeous! What is there not to like? The lines have to be set very very clearly so there is no mistaking that any adjustments will be made in the status. There are still people out there who believe just the right good woman can change that bad apple back to good.
