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Originally Posted by KoolKat  Hey guys
i have a problem, and i duno if im just fucked in the head or if other people are like this too. Im scared about the prospect of having a sexual relationship. I have had a bf before but we never slept together, and i had a one weekend fool around with a guy when i was on holiday in sydney, but it was just wanking with each other and a blow job, but even that i felt really sick and nervous about when i started thiking about it after wards. And now i have met this really great guy and he is keen to have sex, but when i think about it outside of horniness i get that same sick nautious feeling and i dont want to do it, but i do want to do it, but i dont wanna like throw up on the guy or worse, but yeh, just thought i would ask your opinion, its not really young and hung but i am young and confused.
Hope that makes sense
Matt |
Many times I am nervous when thinking of sex with some one new It is evaporated once I am in his arms and we start doing things The fear and nervousness go away although they can come back a day or more later when we have not again been with each other for sex I start to think may be I did some thing wrong or they have no interest in me. It leaves again when I am sexual with that man again.
When I was much younger I too some times felt sick in the stomach both before and after sex Some of this may be from my upbringing/raising where sex with no marriage was frowned upon and homosexuality was one of the eight deadly sins even worse than greed or sloth or envy and worse than if I had brokered all the ten commandments. Over time I got easier with it and began enjoying sex completely Some of this willl surely happen for you too I am sure as you grow older you will become more comfortable and free about sex.