Heya Matt

I believe that the key factors to any successful relationship, has to be; trust, openness, and honesty. Whether you are planning a long term relationship, or planning to have a piece on the side, while looking for that ideal partner, you need to be up front, candid and honest.

Its always a little scary, the first time with any body, and as we feel all our emotions with our stomachs, the urge to throw up, is quite understandable. There is no need to rush into sex, just because your partner is willing. If he's worth his salt, he'll understand, and it'll give you time to learn more about him, and more importantly about yourself.

When you write "but when i think about it outside of horniness ", It sounds like you have other issues to deal with that do not come directly into the sphere of your immediate, and imminent sexual relationship. Acceptance and respect from your peers and family perhaps? Self acceptance? But like learning to swim, there comes a point when there is no point in thinking about it, its just a case of don't think ....... do!