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Originally Posted by AlteredEgo  I recently learned that I can accept those people, and what they did without forgiving them, without poisoning myself. |
I don't quite get it, AE. To me, unforgiveness is a point of contraction in the being that prevents the flow of everything ... but most especially of love. It's a state in which you are actively punishing yourself. To achieve forgiveness is to achieve liberation from a life-withering contraction. (Of course, there's a whole continuum, some of our states of unforgiveness are more minor and hence less debilitating than others.)
Acceptance without forgiving is better, of course, than neither accepting nor forgiving. But I wonder how possible it really is. Because you would be accepting a state of contraction that, with the requisite momentary insight and decision, you might relinquish.
But I have a feeling that you will have a good answer to this. I've probably not quite understood you.
(And this is kind of a do-as-I-say-and-not-as-I-do post. Because I can't pretend that I don't have many points of unforgiveness in my heart. They are hard to identify sometimes, much less release.)
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Originally Posted by AlteredEgo I think, like others have pointed out, that the most growth has come from giving to others of myself. |
QFT.