Very interesting comments ladies...They all make alot of sense. I try to get my wife in the mood with soft carresses, nibling, licking, etc, trying to first relax her and let her build up her juices so to speak.

When I do enter her I like to make sure she's wet enough and dialated enough. Then when she grabs my ass and almost demands me fuck her hard, she kind of takes me by surprise. Now I have a better understanding.

Do I wait for her command next time?

Or do I get a little movement going at first and then "throw the hammer ?"

Men just want to please our women, but if we don't ask, we don't know !