In and of itself looking for sex and love isn't neglecting your life. That's something very healthy that everyone does, to a certain extent, because we are all sexual beings.

Where it crossed the line for me is where it took up my entire life and I bottomed out. I wasn't able to pursue real relationships because I was living several lives just to hide the fact that I was pursuing sex 24 hrs 7 days per week with no breaks. My jobs suffered. I would stay out until the sun rose even on week days filling my days and nights with sex and the pursuit of it.

What you should be paying attention to in those characteristics and questions is if these things have become all-consuming in your life to the exclusion of all other things, and it's holding you back as a self-actualizing person, then it could be a problem.

It has nothing to do with morality, judgment, social "norms", or religion. It's about quality of life. It's about being happy. It's about serenity.

If you are having sex all around town screwing everything that moves and you are deliriously happy, and your life is swell, then I would say there's no problem. In fact, if you are happy then all is well.

On the other hand if things suck and you're losing jobs because you can't concentrate on work and you are surfing for porn all day or having sex in the company bathroom on company time, and you get no sleep because you MUST seek sex, and you can't maintain any kind of relationship (this is an extreme case, but not unheard of) then you might want to examine your relationship to your own sexuality to see if things aren't out of balance.

It's all about balance NIC. There's no judgment on my part. My sex life certainly isn't "conventional." My sex life at 37 finally matches up with who I am and where I want to be headed, and it's in balance with the rest of my life. That's the way it is for me. It took 10+ years to get there. It's a personal journey.