Cheating?

The most vital things in a relationship is trust and safety. Anything of worth keeping takes work. That means trying NOT to flirt when the bf/gf is away. Not even going to a bar that would present that kind of situation.
I had a gf that I had not even slept with yet (made-out alot) and one day I caught her flirting with another guy I didn't even know. So, being a jerk I freaked and accused her of such and such. Well, needless to say she dumped me because she was scared of my anger and didn't want to be with me anymore. About a year later I saw one of the guys I used to work with in construction and he also knew her at the time her and I were going out. He already has a gf. He personally didn't like her anyways, but he told me that when I was seeing her she was going out with two other guys! The thing is she told him and her friends that I was her favorite, BUT I totally ruined it with my 'assumptions' and insecurities. And my anger. The only person you will ever be able to control is yourself. NEVER try to control others. If she did OR didn't cheat on you doesn't matter. The table is turned and now YOU must make the choice to trust her at her word. Otherwise dump her and quit whining about it!

Weird, because if u really love her, you should trust her...

No...I'm saying if he cannot get past the doubt, he should walk now because those feelings of doubt & mistrust will poison the relationship anyway...

spoken like a true cuckold

The issue is whether you feel you can trust her or not. Whether she has done anything or not isn't really all that relevant even if it may seem so.

Do you believe her story when you confronted her? If the two of you have to be separated for a few days again, do you trust her?

If the trust is gone, then the relationship is over regardless of whether or not you still love her.

You may be able to rebuild the relationship from scratch, but the current relationship is over if you don't trust her.

Why saying that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you don't trust her then things are done already. Save yourself all the time and nonsense by getting out now. You're young, don't worry about it!

You had to search on FACEBOOK to find the pictures! That's a lot of work to go through. Sounds like you didn't trust her BEFORE this happened. It's OKAY to admit that, you know? Sometimes those instincts we have to protect ourselves are really red flags that we already know what we're supposed to do.

She wasn't going to tell you anything about that guy she met until you confronted her. After the confrontation, she apologized to you and admitted she was doing something inappropriate. If she cared about your relationship, she would have offered up the apology and explanation before she was 'found out'.

I'm going to get some heat for this, I'm sure, but she *IS* 18, and honestly, she's probably not mature enough to handle a serious commitment like the one it sounds like you want to have with her.

I mean that, in the sense that there isn't a whole lot that you can do to *SPEED UP* the maturity process. Everyone posting on here... do me a favor, and think back to when you were 18???? She's not even old enough to drink yet, and barely legal!!!!

Yeah, yeah, I know, it sucks to hear that same "maturity speech" over and over again... but honestly, it's true. With maturity, comes an appreciation for commitment, truth, and honesty. When you're a hot little 18 year old girl, you've got men drooling all over you, right and left. You get used to the attention, and don't realize that eventually, it all goes away..... and it was never REAL in the first place. She may not figure that out for a while, and there's nothing you can do to change that.

WOW sweetpetite! Very good post, I couldn't say any of it better myself. Be prepared to be attacked for that bit of intelligence. Seems to happen often here.

lol.

he is razzing you.
love and trust are not totally intertwined.

davey may love her but doesn't have trust in her due to the lack
of experience she holds.

you are obviously not what javyn said you are.

Sweet makes a good point. While there are some people who at 18 can be very grown up and responsible it is rare. The OP doesn't, I don't think, state his age. He sounds young too. The relationship is 4months old - the people in it are young - it doesn't seem to be working, they seem to be wanting different things and have different ideas of what is OK and what is not.

I think the OP is better off cutting his losses and moving on. From experience the crying and 'you've changed me' speech is likely to be BS. I make no value judgement on her having several partners by age 18 - if that what she enjoys she should go for it (remembering to be careful) but she shouldn't try to be in a committed relationship because it doesn't sound like she's ready for it. Therefore the OP trying to stick with it and 'just trust her' seems somewhat pointless. They want different things.

There's a great deal of wisdom in these words.

People often say a relationship needs trust. That's not really true. A good relationship needs honesty. Your girlfriend was dishonest with you. Be honest with her and tell her that her actions have bothered you greatly and you find them unacceptable. If she wants to continue to act like that with other guys, let her go do so and don't be in an exclusive relationship with her.

Why even put up with this nonsense? Who cares if she actually fucked him or not. She disrespected you, holmes. Ask yourself, would she have done that if she knew you would find out? Hell no. There is a reason for that. It's wrong.