Cheating?

Unless your girl has given you reason to believe she is dishonest or has cheated on you in the past, I really think you should give her the benefit of the doubt. Those pictures may (or may not) look incriminating but they could well be innocent as she says. Bottom line? No woman likes to be suffocated by a possessive, jealous man or constantly accused of messing around when she isn't. What will happen over time is your girlfriend will resent you because you are not showing any trust in her. If you want your girl to leave you, carry on accusing her of cheating. If you want to keep her, just tell her you need to feel that you can trust her and how much it upsets you to think of some other man touching her in this way. Ask her not to allow it to happen again (for the sake of your relationship). Then ask her to destroy these photos and try to accept her word that nothing happened.

Think this what im gona do!

Here's the thing: Sometimes the suspicion of cheating can do as much damage to a relationship as the real thing. Unless & until you can get the idea (because you have no proof) out of your mind that she cheated on you, you might as well walk away now. Otherwise that doubt you have will only poison the relationship.

He has photos of her kissing on another man. What more proof do you need? A picture of a dick in her ass? At the worst it is cheating. At the least it is disrespectful in the extreme. I wouldn't stand for it either way *shrug.

And IMO people who preach benefit of the doubt are the biggest cheaters.

In his own words, he said he wasn't sure they actually kissed.

i said im 99% sure though, their heads are pointin to each other and their lips are parallel but u cant be sure, il try and get the pic up on here!

Edit: no i cant get it, it was on one of her friens facebooks but has been deleted!

hmmmmmmmmmmm........... well, all i know -where theres smoke theres fire! i have been in this situation.
while my hubby was away i found out that he had been on this website and chatting with women where he was going to travel and planning to meet up with them........... for fun and more - the e-mails were very incriminating and i went totally nuts - i still really dont think our relationship has been the same since.
as soon as i go to bed, he gets on the computer and chats to other people .
The other night i caught him camming with someone.......... i thought i was going to kill him........... i started yelling at him............... what r u doing ..............who is that........... i ended up cutting up the web cam cord............
its our anniversary today, and i woke up to feed the baby.. i found the lube next to the pc yet again and wonder who he's been talking to yet again............ obviously i'm not good enough for him anymore. he seems more interested in his dick than his family
BUT ANY WAY - enough of my shit........if you need to chat- you know what to do

It doesn't really matter...my point was, it was enough to put doubt in your mind about her...if you can't get past that doubt, you need to walk away now because the doubt will screw up the relationship anyway...

Flowermaiden's post illustrates what I mean...

By that logic surely he should wait and see if the relationship is screwed up before walking away? Walking away in order to prevent the relationship being screwed up is pointless and is the same as throwing the relationship away!

Well put flowermaiden, and I'm sorry to hear that. I feel for you.

edit: Also flower, thanks for posting something that actually makes sense. You are the in the minority here for being intelligent.

It is such a comfortable feeling when you can trust your spouse or significant other in situations without you. Hearsay and circumstantial evidence are ripe fodder for an overactive imagination or suspicious mind.

All of the advice we can offer here is of absolutely no value to you because you pave your own road and have to be comfortable on the path you've made.

I've never been cheated on, but my wife has in her first marriage. I am guilty of cheating with married women long ago and take no particular pride in those acts.

I am very confident that my wife would never cheat on me, and I hope she can always be assured that I would never do anything to ruin what I have now.

So, I guess you have to ask yourself if each of you respect the relationship the same amount that your actions would do nothing to offend the other.

i would follow runco's advice.
destroy the pics and swear that it ends there.
you both understand the limits very clearly now.

the relationship is growing and it is painful at times.
if she does it again or even hints at the idea,
seriously think about losing her.

Guess I'm a jerk, but when you get screwed over so many times, man or woman, you tend to not give second chances anymore.

You really don't trust her? Get one of her mates who was on holiday with her drunk and ask her what, if anything, happened.

That's what I'd do if I were your age - it's risky. If your girl finds out you did it you're fucked but it sounds like you are kinda fucked anyway. Runco's advice is best but 4 months is not very long to get to know someone so it probably is very hard to tell if she's lying or not. So ask someone else. You're young though - this shit happens, if you break up you'll get over it, so will she

no i don't think your'e a jerk at all javyn.
it is just tricky because he doesn't know for certain.

if he knew for certain she cheated, than i would say dump her.
she may have just been being social and being a woman
most men take a friendly smile as "she wants to fuck me"
and starts the whole pushy alpha male crap.

which she wants no part of but also doesn't want to make a scene.