Straight before gay?

I knew I was attracted to guys physically so I had sex with them from the outset.

I was married for six years in my twenties and have two wonderful boys from that relationship. Do I see myself in a long term relationship with another woman? Prolly not. Am I ruling it out? No. My experience of "coming out" was more of a process of self-acceptance rather than a 'kick the door down' event.

One thing that I find interesting is that with the fairer sex, I have a "type" that I am attracted too. With men I don't

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I know many gay men in their 50's and 60's who never so much as kissed a woman and never will. Then again I know a few gay men of advanced years who were always gay but due to family and societal constraints they felt they had to "act straight" they married, had children, and divorced. I think that is more being in the closet than "being straight" They knew they were gay, they were just afraid to act on it openly.[/quote]

I am one of those guys. Tried really hard to be straight. Never happened.

I see myself as sexually fluid at this point in my life. I have sex with both men and women, and thoroughly enjoy both. I'm not into the emotional neediness of women, too much drama. But I can't really see myself coming home to a man every night either.

When I was younger, I had quite a few relationships with women. I nearly got married twice. In fact I lived with one woman for two years. However, in between women, I had a few one-night stands with men and eventually realised that I was going to be happier with men. However, if a truly exceptional woman came along, I can't say I wouldn't go back.

I've never had any sexual contact with a girl/woman. I never had a girlfriend and I've never kissed a chick. I knew right from a very early age that I wanted to be friends with girls and nothing more, there has never been any sexual interest in women whatsoever. I don't find women revolting - far from it - i think women are beautiful and wonderful creatures but they do nothing for me sexually.

I never tried anything with a girl as I knew it was a lost cause, just like some men never need to kiss another guy to know they aren't gay - i was the exact opposite. I went straight (no pun intended) into gay sexual experiences and have never looked back!

I'm one of those 50+ year guys who was married with childrenn and had strong feelings for men. The world's view of homosexuallity was far different then from what it is to-day. Having come to terms with my sexuality I have no desire to have sex with a woman any more. Some may say "You should not have got married in the first place" to some extent I agree, but unless you have been through that experience you will never know what it is truely like. I am not proud of the deceit and lies and that I have to live with. Having said that my family still love me and have given me every support and not turned their back on me as some would.

Hear, hear, good for you!

This is great! More guys should be this honest. I say having straight sex doesn't make you straight and having gay sex doesn't make you gay. It's what you "prefer" but even then it's about the person.

I just ended a 9 year gay relationship and I meet this HOT woman. I'm like; she is doable LOL. Have you noticed the gay community is against "bi"? Stop trying to fit everyone into the proverbial box LOL and enjoy.

Bch

I experienced these things, too. Loved playing doctor. As I got into 6th grade, we played spin the bottle and all the guys wanted to feel girls' tits. Jim was my J/O buddy from 6th through 8th grade, but it wasn't a romantinc thing - we just learned how our dicks worked. I had a girlfriend in high school. It was back in the late '60s when having sex before marriage was frowned upon. At 21, I dated a young lady and had full-on sex for the first time. We dated all winter and it was okay. By summer, I moved on and would always go out to bars, dance with girls, and brought a few home. It was always at least decent, and most of the time I got off, but I never considered myself to be Joe Stud with the ladies.

I moved to Arizona when I was 23 and worked in a grocery store. I had a motorcycle and was popular with the girls. The odd thing is that they wanted to be my friend, not my lover. It made me wonder why I wasn't sexually appealing. A few year later, I hooked up with Sandra, and we had a great time in the sack. She was the first woman that got off from me eating her out. We had a brief, but torrid affair.

I had a good friend, Ron, who was my first hard core jock friend. He got me into running, weight training, and racquetball. My newfound level of fitness made me admire my body. I admired Ron's 6'4" buffed body and started thinking about blowing him. Just before he turned 18, he moved into my apartment. Before I knew it, nature took over and we were having explosive sex. It was better than anything I could have imagined, and kept getting better each time. We were best of friends and fuck buddies for 6 years. We both dated girls here and there, but after a few years, I no longer had any desire to sleep with anyone else. When Ron and I had spats, I'd go out to the gay bars in Phoenix. This was in the late '70s before the fitness craze hit the gay community. I would always get a strong reaction from gay guys when I'd walk in the bar. I was cute, tan, and had a great body, and went home with quite a few guys before STDs were a worry.

From that point on, I knew that I was more into guys than women, and it's been that way ever since. My best friend is a woman, and we don't have any sexual chemistry at all. My guy friends are straight, and there aren't any guys I know that I'm attracted to. I've had a peculiar experience with guys since the '80s. I'm too gay for the straight ones and too straight for the gay ones. LOL! Like they say "You never know who you're going to meet tomorrow." I may consider myself to be a confirmed bachelor, but that could change any day if I meet the right guy.